UK health policy dictates that Advance Care Planning (ACP), including the use of living wills, promotes choice and quality regarding end of life care for those with chronic and life-threatening conditions and it has been incorporated in self-management training. This paper reports a qualitative evaluation based on in-depth interviews with 31 respondents who had completed a UK based lay-led self-management course (The Expert Patients Programme), and 12 respondents who had completed the same course adapted for people who are HIV positive. We draw upon previous social research on ‘death awareness’ and the biographical context of illness experience and management in examining the impact of incorporating this subject within a self-management intervention. The analysis demonstrates that many participants were unprepared to face issues raised in the session with material represented as disrupting some aspects of illness adaptation and existing views about death and dying. Positioning educational material on death and dying alongside that on ‘positive’ self-management of illness highlights the complexities and sensitivities of planning for end of life care with implications for future educational interventions of this type.